My best friend in high school was a boy! Shocking isn't it? You'd think I always knew the amazingness of women friendships but while I did have friends who were girls in high school I"d say my best friend was Bubba, my dearest who was practically family. I did a Beth Moore bible study once that had us look back over our lives for surprising "God" moments and "God" people. Bubba was on the top of my list surprisingly because even though he didn't know Christ he was actually the one person in my life when I got carried away with "life" that held me accountable and was appalled by me not being who I was created to be. It is so funny now looking back on it. He was just one of those people who I'd stay up with all hours and talk about life, school, family, work, anything and everything. He was a dear friend and was up until about 5 years ago. We still talk occasionally, or run into each other here and there and catch up but that is how life goes- people work, people are busy, and old friendships fall by the side.
Tonight I was with another old buddy (I'll use the friend term sparingly) and we had a fabulous time at dinner hanging out but on the car ride home all I could think about was Bubba and our lost friendship. Part of it was the scene I was in was eerily similar- large truck, loud music, laughter, and the exact same conversations: Be safe, call someone if you need a ride, and me wanting to scream at this person for not realizing their full potential.
So immediately when I got home I knew I had to talk to Bubba and tell him what I never told him: He is AMAZING!!!!!!! How he held me accountable when everyone else looked away or called it rebellion or acting out. How he knew God had created me for so much more than I even knew, yet I always missed the opportunities to tell him so was he. I wish it had been him in the car tonight so I could pour into him just turn my cup over and dump it over him lol. I kept my mouth shut tonight with my other buddy because our friendship isn't back up to where it once was, it could be mis-interpreted... we don't need that happening!!!!
Don't miss the chance to tell those people who mattered, in surprising ways that they made a difference and that they tend to miss seeing themselves for who they really are.... truly amazing, intelligent, funny, caring, and capable!!! I feel like girls tell each other this all the time but 18-30 year old men never hear it ( I can't imagine that is how their conversations with each other are going)... that they have something to offer, and not because others want something but because they are better than they think they are. Why are these great men not confident? I'm seeing a pattern more and more.
I'm digressing! Tell those who are great that they are. Keep telling them until they believe you and keep telling them to they see it themselves.
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